Serious answers please! How do dating and porn solicitation get sent to your email?

Question

I have been having problems with my husband and porn. We have recently had a melt down and he has promised not to look at porn anymore. He even canceled his old email so he would not get anymore porn solicitation. He is now getting dating website solicitation in his email. He promises that he doesn't go to any dating websites, but i have heard that before. Is it possible that he is not goind to those sites and they are just soliciting him out of no where? He also get webcam solicitation on myspace all the time. I have never had any kind of solicitation of that kind sent to me in my email and myspace. Is he telling me the truth? And please no bullsht answers, this is serious and i am having a real bad time.

Answer 1

If he went to those sites in the past and gave his email address or signed up for access then they usually use and sell that information to other companies of the like, so that's going to exponentially increase the spam you guys will get from those kinds of sites.



Besides that, spammers hunt for email addresses and find you even if you haven't gone to those places, but it's much worse if you have.



Can I recommend something else? It's obvious your husband is either exploring some fantasies or is bored in some way (no offense to you). But why not try sharing the experience with him in a way you both can enjoy rather than just tell him to stop. That's like making someone feel bad for smoking - they'll still sneak a cigarette, but wouldn't you rather know about it and work as a couple to create something postive from it? I think at least being open and non-judgemental about any sexual appetite is important.



Just my thoughts, no judgement. Hope that helps.



The myspace thing is rampant and he's not bringing that on himself. You aren't getting those because you're female and they have ways of sending those bulletins to only Males.

Answer 2

That's a big spam issue. I get stuff all the time (and I don't go to those sites or have anything to do with them), and I have been told by several computer-savvy friends (including one who creates and manages servers) that if your email address is posted anywhere on the internet, you are subject to spam of any kind. Spammers use a program that basically scans the internet for email addresses. I've been told that the easiest way to prevent a majority of this spam is to list your email address without the @ and . [dot] symbols if you post it online somewhere. Instead, spell out AT and DOT, putting spaces between them and the other parts of the email. This allows them to be overlooked by the scanners (or so I'm told).



Also, don't unsubscribe to anything that you didn't originally sign up for. If they spam you, they are just looking for a valid email address. When you unsubscribe, they know that your email address actually exists as a valid email address. They can't send you anything else, but they can sell your email address to any company they want to. Basically, one unsubscribe can open you up to 100s of spam emails.



So, give him the benefit of the doubt to an extent. But also, be wary. Most people don't change. Check the website history on a daily basis (set it where it won't automatically erase after a day or two). Tell him to not erase the history if he wants to prove his innocence. An honest person has nothing to hide, so if he pitches a fit, it's possible he's lying.

Answer 3

Sometimes it's the guy, sometimes not. Like the other member said, companies get your email when you subscribe to different websites and then sell your address until one of those xxxx sites gets it. But also, the volume of solicitation can depend on how many of these types of websites he has visited/subscribed to: downloading sites (torrent, music, etc.), "free" offers websites, online gambling.



Just a personal advice: You can't act as a watchdog forever. It drains you. It's better to be hard and say things clearly from the beginning that wait 5-10 years for this problem to be solved. If you don't want to put up with his behavior, he either has to straighten up or leave. Simple as that.

Answer 4

For now you could probably believe that those emails are exactly as you mentioned, phishing sites trying to get men to sign up to look at the naked stuff. Just spam. However, sometimes when a person looks at porn websites, his email address may get into their system and then they send those out. Usually when the women in those emails are that forward, and that good looking, it's spam. So, in short, it could be coming from porn, or generated from dating sites. Until you really have a reason to not trust him, or you can actually prove he's lying, you may have to take his word for it. Good luck.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I get those types of emails on accounts that have never been used anywhere online ever.

Many spammers will simply send email to every mail user at a certain domain.

It doesn't matter if you're Mother Teresa or Charles Manson, you'll get the same junk.

Answer 7

Yes, it is quite possible. The dating emails are from companies selling their mailing lists to 3rd parties, sadly, a common practice. As for the MySpace cam solicitations, yes, I get those all the time and they make it sound like "Oh hi, I just moved in to the area, wanna see me?"

Answer 8

I don't go on any of these websites and I get solicitations, I just keep deleting them. Unfortunately if you go on the Internet you are vulnerable to unwanted solicitations! Peace!

Answer 9

If he ONLY gets dating email he's full of Schnit. . . . If he his just being spammed in general, there will be ads from porn, dating, penis enlargment, viagra, stock market, real estate, and lots of others. THATS general spamming. If the ads are specific, it's because he's been pumping his palm.

Answer 10

Without playing games, don’t be available 100% of the time or let your life be an open book. A man that comes on too strong or doesn’t have outside interests will scare a woman away just as much as it would if the circumstances were reversed. Read here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?utLE



Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.

Answer 11

Once he gives his email addy to one porn site they sell his email to other porn sites and dating service

Answer 12

I get those emails all the time and neither I nor my fiance go to those kinds of websites. It's not your husband.

Answer 13

I get them all of the time and I truly do not view those sites at all. So, i think it may just happen when you are looking at things on the web and they just send them unsolicited.

Answer 14

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Answer 15

This is caused by the Internet. Remove your connection and the problem will go away.